Swingers Lifestyle Glossary
AC/DC - See Bi
B & D – This stands for bondage and discipline.
Back Door – This is anal sex.
BDSM - Bondage, discipline, sadomasochism
Bi - People who have sex with others of the same gender as well as the opposite gender.
Bi Curious - People who are curious about bisexuality but tentative, unsure if they actually would pursue it if available.
Bondage – When an individual is sexually aroused when being restrained or is subject to corrective treatment by another. (B & D)
Cheating Wife - This refers to women who have sex with others without their partner's knowledge and approval. Sometimes it's a game some couples play. "He doesn't know" when in reality he does.
Cheater - This term is very clear - someone is having sex with others without their partner's knowledge and approval.
Clean - Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
Closed Swinging – This is where partner swap, but have sexual intercourse in separate rooms.
Couple - A man and a woman, either married, or in a relationship, maybe even co-habiting.
DP – This stands for double penetration.
Discipline – These are disciplinary actions which arouse the sexual desires. It can range from mild spankings to painful beatings. (B & D)
Discreet - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
Dominant - The sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner
Fetish – It is sexual arousal through the use of objects or affection to parts of the body, such as fingers, feet, leather, etc.
FMF - Female, male, female sexual activities.
French – This is another term for oral sex.
Full Swap - Full sexual activity, including penetration, with another couple or couples.
Gang Bang - This is where multiple men have sex with one or more females.
Girl - Girl - Two or more girls engaged in sexual activity, often with their partners watching.
Greek – A slang word used for anal intercourse.
Group Sex - Sexual activity between three or more people.
Hard Core - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
Hedonist – An individual or one who lives only for pleasure.
Hot Wife - Wives or girlfriends that may have sex with other men without their partner present.
House Party - This is usually an orgy in someone's home.
Lifestyle - This is a term most swingers prefer rather than the label "Swinger."
Master/Slave - Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship.
Menage a' Trois - Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants.
Meet & Greet - It is an event that is organized in a get-acquainted area of neutral ground, such as a bar, restaurant, or dance hall. These are often followed by a party.
MFM - A threesome with two men and one woman.
MILF - Mothers I'd Like to Fuck.
Newbie - A single or couple who is new to swinging.
Off Premise - These are events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party. If members wish to get together sexually they either go to a hotel, home, or else where for pleasure.
On Premise - These are events usually held at house parties or private clubs. Sexual activities are allowed in designated areas or bedrooms. There are also safe rooms where sexual activities are not allowed to take place.
Open Swinging – This kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed.
Orgy - A party which involves unrestrained indulgence in sexual activity.
Pro - Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
Pushy - People who try to have sex before the other(s) feel it is appropriate.
Restraint - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
Rules - Swinging rules come in many forms. There are the rules of the swinger's club, the rules of each couple, and the rules of the individual.
Safe - Male with vasectomy or female with hysterectomy or tubal legation. (This means that he or she is unable to become pregnant or to impregnate respectively.)
Same Room Only - See Open Swinging
Separate Swing - See Closed swinging
Single Male or Single Female - Individuals who are not part of a swinging couple.
Social – A party, dance, or general gathering for social interaction only, there is no swinging at a social. Although swinging may follow if arranged privately. These are often followed by an after-party.
Soft Swing - People who either watched and be watched or explore with each other's partner without sexual intercourse.
Swinger's Resort - An on premises swing club that usually has clothing optional amenities where swingers enjoy a resort like atmosphere. Florida has perfect weather for clothing optional recreation.
Swinging - Social-sexual recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.
Swinging Lifestyle - Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
Threesome - A combination of three people, usually but not always, a "two on one" situation. There are both same sex and mixed gender threesomes.
Ticket - A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing.
Triad - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
Voyeur - A variant of the lifestyle where one or both partners in a relationship enjoy watching their partner have sex with others yet do not participate.
Watch and be Watched - This is a version of swinging where couples do not swap partners but simply have sex with others present.
Wife swapping - Swingers who are married, and swing as a couple, open or closed swing.
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